One thing I am realizing more and more is that nobody likes you more than yourself. You can learn many lessons from this, here are a few:
If you love yourself, you give off a glow that people want to be part of because it makes them feel good. They can improve themselves by being part of whatever you are doing. On the flip side, if you hate yourself, people run from you because they get depressed just being close to you.
People are interested in helping themselves get the most out of everything. If you ask a friend to go to a movie, they will only go because they want to see the movie, because they want to spend time with you or some other reason that helps them, like just not being bored. A friend will do you a favor because they know you will pay it back and/or because they want to keep you as a friend. Some people help others out because it feels good to them or they feel that they are making the world a better place.
People may ask you what you do for a living, during your vacations, or during your time off but they don’t really care. They ask you to get ideas for themselves, to network, or to make conversation and hear themselves speak by telling you what they do.
As a marketer, you have to take a product and prove to people why they should care about it. A vegan does not care how many delis there are on his street but he will start to care when they start offering vegan menus.
I don’t mean for this to be a pessimistic post about how selfish people are, I want this post to help you have better social interactions with everyone and make the world a better place. There are simple things that you can do to help such as:
By doing these, you will feel good about yourself which will lead to your liking yourself even more, people wanting to be close to you, Spend time with you and listen to you. You’ll notice that it goes in full circle. Help others to help yourself or “what goes around comes around. However you want to put it, changing the world starts with liking yourself.
I am a typical person more or less that has always tried to get away with doing the absolute minimum to get by. In school, I did my assignments last minute, I barely passes some of my tests, I crammed for everything and didn't care about retaining any information. I always wanted to be successful and get lucky but my problem was that I thought that luck and chance were synonymous. One day, all that changed when i found out that there was more to "Luck". I learned that it was possible to make your own luck and that people that were "lucky", all had very similar characteristics. I made a conscious decision to become one of those lucky people and the world started to open up. It didn't happen overnight and I'm still not there yet but at least I know what to look for and what to do. Recognizing the opportunities to get lucky is only the beginning of the battle. Now I have to train myself to jump on every opportunity and one day be truly "lucky".
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