One thing I am realizing more and more is that nobody likes you more than yourself. You can learn many lessons from this, here are a few:
By liking yourself, you allow others to like you
If you love yourself, you give off a glow that people want to be part of because it makes them feel good. They can improve themselves by being part of whatever you are doing. On the flip side, if you hate yourself, people run from you because they get depressed just being close to you.
For Someone to do Something, It has to Benefit Them
People are interested in helping themselves get the most out of everything. If you ask a friend to go to a movie, they will only go because they want to see the movie, because they want to spend time with you or some other reason that helps them, like just not being bored. A friend will do you a favor because they know you will pay it back and/or because they want to keep you as a friend. Some people help others out because it feels good to them or they feel that they are making the world a better place.
People Don’t Care About What You Do, Unless it Benefits Them
People may ask you what you do for a living, during your vacations, or during your time off but they don’t really care. They ask you to get ideas for themselves, to network, or to make conversation and hear themselves speak by telling you what they do.
Nobody Cares About A Product Until You Prove Why it Benefits Them
As a marketer, you have to take a product and prove to people why they should care about it. A vegan does not care how many delis there are on his street but he will start to care when they start offering vegan menus.
I don’t mean for this to be a pessimistic post about how selfish people are, I want this post to help you have better social interactions with everyone and make the world a better place. There are simple things that you can do to help such as:
Give someone a complement
Listen when someone is speaking to you
Give people the time of day
Encourage your friends to reach for the stars
By doing these, you will feel good about yourself which will lead to your liking yourself even more, people wanting to be close to you, Spend time with you and listen to you. You’ll notice that it goes in full circle. Help others to help yourself or “what goes around comes around. However you want to put it, changing the world starts with liking yourself.