My one year old daughter just took her first couple of steps recently and it is an amazing site to see. To see how much effort and determination she puts into each movement of her foot while trying to stay balanced is amazing. The way she does it is by holding onto our couch or coffee table and pulling herself up. She then lets go with one hand and tries to stay balanced. Then comes the movement of one foot slowly moving forward, almost dragging itself on the floor to keep some security. Finally, when she has stretched as far as she can go while still holding on, she lets go of the table or couch and takes a step. If she can stay balanced, she takes another step. The most important detail that I omitted was that she doesn’t just do this for the hell of it, she does this when she is trying to get something. She has a goal and she is literally using baby steps to achieve it.
Lessons I learn from my children are some of the most enjoyable learning experiences in my life. I watch them grow and at the same time, they cause me to grow. The important lesson my daughter recently taught me is when trying to achieve a goal that you have never achieved before, you must go about it slowly and carefully by taking baby steps.
I ended off yesterday’s post with the importance of making it a point to become a better person each day. Today I want to talk about baby steps. No matter what the goal is, no matter how big it is, you can achieve it if you move towards it at a slow but steady pace. You just have to break the goal or task down into tiny little pieces and do one little piece at a time. They say that “
Now that you have seen some large goals that you either didn’t have control over or never really thought about, look at something practical and much smaller. Imagine writing a term paper for school or a report for work. You start out by sitting in front of a blank screen on your computer, you crack your knuckles and then you get so overwhelmed by your task that you begin to procrastinate. The unlucky person will go get a snack for themselves, and then check their email, take a shower, or anything else to fool themselves into thinking that they are helping themselves. A lucky person will take out a pad and paper and break down the task into tiny little parts so that they can start moving forward.
The task list can look something like this:
At this point, you have a skeleton of your paper and with very little work your entire project is now more doable. Just continue breaking everything down into tiny tasks and taking baby steps to complete each one.
Once you are happy with the outline of your paper, you can take one topic to be discussed at a time and do research on only that topic. When you are finished, take the next topic. You will be finished before you know it and the unlucky person sitting next to you will just be finished checking his email for the 50th time.
I am a typical person more or less that has always tried to get away with doing the absolute minimum to get by. In school, I did my assignments last minute, I barely passes some of my tests, I crammed for everything and didn't care about retaining any information. I always wanted to be successful and get lucky but my problem was that I thought that luck and chance were synonymous. One day, all that changed when i found out that there was more to "Luck". I learned that it was possible to make your own luck and that people that were "lucky", all had very similar characteristics. I made a conscious decision to become one of those lucky people and the world started to open up. It didn't happen overnight and I'm still not there yet but at least I know what to look for and what to do. Recognizing the opportunities to get lucky is only the beginning of the battle. Now I have to train myself to jump on every opportunity and one day be truly "lucky".
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